
A parent would reach for this book when their teenager is navigating the messy, isolating process of grief or struggling to accept a major family change, such as a new adoption or a parent moving on after a loss. It is a deeply resonant choice for teens who feel like they are being forced to 'replace' a loved one or who are grappling with their own sense of belonging. The story follows two girls: Jill, who is mourning her father, and Mandy, a pregnant teen looking for the family she never had. The book handles heavy themes of grief, teen pregnancy, and adoption with a realistic, secular lens. It is most appropriate for high schoolers due to its emotional intensity and mature situations. Parents will appreciate how it validates the anger and resistance children often feel during times of transition, ultimately showing that family is built through shared vulnerability.
Occasional use of realistic teen profanity.
Discussion of past relationships and a teen pregnancy.
Pervasive themes of grief following the death of a parent and feelings of abandonment.
The book deals directly and realistically with death, grief, and teen pregnancy. The approach is secular and grounded in contemporary reality. The resolution is hopeful but maintains a sharp edge of realism: it does not promise easy fixes, but rather sustainable paths forward.
A high school senior who feels emotionally distant from their family following a loss or a parent's decision to remarry or adopt. It is perfect for the teen who 'acts out' through silence and withdrawal rather than rebellion.
Parents should be aware of the frank discussions regarding teen pregnancy and the physical realities of labor. There is also brief mention of past neglect in Mandy's background. A parent might see their child isolating themselves in their room, snapping at any mention of a deceased relative, or showing open hostility toward a new family member or a positive life change.
For a younger teen (14), the focus will likely be on the external drama of the adoption and Mandy's pregnancy. For an older teen (17 to 18), the nuances of Jill's identity crisis and the fear of the future will be much more prominent.
Unlike many 'adoption stories' that focus on the parents, Zarr focuses entirely on the two young women on opposite sides of the experience, giving them equal agency and emotional depth.
The story is told through alternating perspectives between Jill MacSweeny and Mandy Kalinowski. Jill is an eighteen-year-old in suburban California struggling with the sudden death of her father. When her mother decides to adopt a baby from Mandy, an eighteen-year-old from Nebraska, Jill reacts with resentment and isolation. Mandy, meanwhile, is seeking the love and stability she never received from her own mother. As Mandy moves into Jill's home for the final weeks of her pregnancy, both girls must navigate their preconceptions of one another and their own futures.
This overview was generated by AI based on the book's content and reviews, and may not capture every nuance.
Your experience helps other parents find the right book.
Sign in to write a review