
Reach for this book when your child feels like they have to keep a part of themselves hidden to keep the peace or protect their family from additional stress. It is an ideal choice for the preteen who feels the heavy burden of being the selfless or easy child while navigating their own burgeoning identity. The story follows twelve year old Winnie, whose parents have asked her to stay in the closet while visiting her grandmother. Amidst the tension of her mother's high risk pregnancy, Winnie struggles with the pressure to be the sunshine in everyone's life while longing to celebrate her true self at Pride. It is a poignant, realistic look at the complexity of family loyalty versus personal authenticity for the middle grade reader.
Discussion of previous pregnancy losses and the anxiety surrounding a current high-risk pregnancy.
The book deals directly with the challenges of coming out in a secular context. It also touches on reproductive trauma (miscarriage/infant loss) as a background family stressor. The resolution is realistic and hopeful, focusing on self advocacy rather than a perfect, magical family fix.
A 10 to 12 year old who is beginning to question their identity or feels like they are the anchor for their emotionally fragile parents. It is for the kid who feels they have to be perfect so their parents don't break.
Parents should be aware of the themes of parental pressure. There is a specific focus on the mother's past pregnancy losses which may be a sensitive topic for some families. The book is best read when parents are ready to discuss the harm of forcing children to hide their identities, especially when that secrecy is driven by others' prejudices. A parent might see their child becoming unusually withdrawn or overly compliant (people-pleasing) to the point of losing their own voice. You might hear your child say, I just didn't want to make things harder for you.
Younger readers (8-9) will focus on the grandparent relationship and the desire to go to a big event like Pride. Older readers (11-12) will deeply resonate with the nuanced social dynamics and the weight of keeping secrets for the sake of adults.
Unlike many coming out stories that focus on peer bullying, this book focuses on the internal and familial pressure to be the easy child and how that specific kind of love can sometimes feel like a cage.
Twelve year old Winnie Nash is sent to spend the summer with her estranged grandmother in New Jersey. Her parents, preoccupied by a high risk pregnancy following previous losses, ask Winnie to keep her sexual orientation a secret because they fear her grandmother will disapprove. Winnie finds herself caught between being the obedient daughter her parents need and the person she actually is. As she befriends local girls and eyes a trip to the NYC Pride Parade, the weight of the secret and her family's expectations comes to a head.
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