
Reach for this book when your middle-schooler is struggling with the 'parentification' that often follows a separation, or when they feel they must be the emotional glue holding the family together. The story follows thirteen-year-old Gilda as she navigates the upheaval of her parents' divorce. While her mother and father are preoccupied with their own transitions, Gilda takes it upon herself to care for her younger siblings and preserve the sanctity of family traditions like Thanksgiving. It is a poignant, realistic look at responsibility and the burden of being the 'reliable' child during a crisis. Parents will find it a helpful tool for acknowledging a child's feelings of displacement while opening a door to discuss how roles change within a family in flux.
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The book deals directly and realistically with divorce and parental neglect. It is secular in nature. The resolution is realistic rather than perfectly happy: the parents do not reunite, but Gilda learns to set boundaries for her own well-being.
A 12 or 13-year-old who is the 'responsible one' in a family facing conflict. It resonates with kids who feel they have to grow up too fast to protect their younger brothers or sisters.
Parents should be prepared for the depiction of the adults in the book, who are often portrayed as self-absorbed or failing to meet their children's emotional needs. It is best read alongside a child to discuss how Gilda shouldn't have to carry the weight alone. A parent might see their child over-functioning: making school lunches for siblings, cleaning the house without being asked, or acting as a mediator in parental arguments.
Younger readers (10) may focus on Gilda's cool competence and the sibling bond. Older readers (14) will likely feel the sting of the parents' failures and Gilda's lost childhood.
Unlike many divorce books that focus on the 'two houses' logistics, this focuses on the internal psychological shift of the child who tries to replace the missing structure of the home.
Gilda, a middle schooler, finds her world upended by her parents' divorce. While her mother explores a new identity and her father is physically and emotionally distant, Gilda steps into a maternal role for her younger siblings. The narrative culminates in her attempt to host a 'normal' Thanksgiving, which results in a makeshift tuna fish dinner that symbolizes the new, imperfect reality of her family life.
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