
Reach for this book when your child is acting out or withdrawing due to the news of a new baby. It is particularly effective for children who feel their status in the family is being threatened by the 'new arrival.' This story follows Andrew, a young bear who experiences a range of difficult emotions from sulking to anxiety as he contemplates sharing his life with a sibling. Unlike many books that focus only on the joy of a new baby, this one validates the child's sense of displacement and grumpiness. By the end, Andrew discovers his unique role as a big brother through his parents' reassurance that his help is indispensable. It is a gentle, realistic look at the transition from only child to older sibling for children aged 3 to 7.
The book deals with the fear of abandonment and loss of status within a family. The approach is metaphorical through the use of animal characters but the emotions are grounded in secular reality. The resolution is hopeful and empowering.
A 4 or 5 year old who has recently started 'acting like a baby' themselves or who has become uncharacteristically quiet since a pregnancy was announced.
This book is safe to read cold, but parents should be prepared to pause when Andrew is sulking to ask if the child has ever felt that way too. A parent who just heard their child say 'I don't want a baby' or 'I want the baby to go back,' or a parent who feels guilty about the changing family dynamic.
Younger children (3-4) will relate to Andrew's facial expressions and his need for physical closeness. Older children (5-7) will better grasp the concept of 'helpfulness' as a source of maturity and status.
While many sibling books focus on the 'fun' of a baby, this book focuses on the 'utility' of the older sibling. It gives the child a job and a purpose, which directly combats the feeling of being replaced.
Andrew is a young bear who is unhappy about the impending arrival of a new sibling. He sulks and worries about being replaced until his parents sit him down and explain that not only will they still love him, but they will actually need his specific 'big bear' skills to help care for the baby.
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