
Reach for this book when your daughter comes home feeling like she suddenly lost her place in her friend group or when the 'rules' of being a girl seem to have changed overnight. It speaks directly to that painful transition between childhood and the teenage years, where long-term best friends can suddenly feel like strangers. Kate and Marylin have been best friends since they were babies, but as they enter sixth grade, Marylin becomes obsessed with popularity and makeup while Kate still wants to catch crawdads in the creek. This story is a comforting anchor for girls aged 9 to 13 who are navigating the 'secret language' of middle school social hierarchies. It validates the loneliness of being left behind and the pressure to conform, all while maintaining a realistic and gentle tone. Parents will appreciate how it models self-reflection and the understanding that growing apart is a natural, if difficult, part of growing up.
Deals with the emotional pain of friendship dissolution and feeling excluded.
The book deals primarily with social exclusion and identity. The approach is direct and secular. While there are no heavy tragedies, the emotional 'death' of a friendship is treated with significant weight. The resolution is realistic rather than perfectly 'happy,' acknowledging that while the girls still care for each other, they may not be best friends in the same way again.
A fifth or sixth grader who is currently experiencing 'friendship friction' or feels like the odd one out because they aren't ready to trade their toys for makeup. It is perfect for the child who feels like everyone else got a manual on how to be a teenager except for them.
The book is safe to read cold. Parents might want to discuss the scene where Marylin tries to fit in with the older, more cynical girls to help their child understand that 'mean' behavior often stems from insecurity. A parent might see their child sitting alone at a school event, or hear their child say, 'Marylin doesn't talk to me anymore because I'm not cool.'
Younger readers (9-10) will likely identify strongly with Kate's desire to keep things the way they were. Older readers (12-13) will recognize Marylin's social anxiety and the pressure to perform a certain type of femininity.
Unlike many middle-grade novels that vilify the 'popular' girl, Dowell gives Marylin a voice. By using alternating perspectives, the book shows that the 'popular' path is just as confusing and lonely as the 'outcast' path, making it a more nuanced tool for empathy.
Kate and Marylin live next door to each other and have been inseparable since toddlerhood. As they enter sixth grade, a rift develops. Marylin joins the cheerleading squad and becomes entrenched in the social rules of 'the populars,' focusing on appearance and status. Kate remains comfortable in her own skin, preferring her old hobbies and feeling increasingly alienated by Marylin's new persona. The narrative alternates perspectives, showing how both girls struggle with their changing identities and the evolution of their friendship.
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