
A parent should reach for this book when their child is struggling with a persistent habit and feeling the weight of repeated failure or shame. It is a refreshing departure from instructional 'how-to' guides, offering instead a deeply empathetic look at a mother and daughter who enter a mutual pact: Mom will quit smoking, and her daughter will stop sucking her thumb. The story captures the messy, non-linear reality of self-control without being preachy or judgmental. It validates the difficulty of change and emphasizes that the bond between parent and child is more important than immediate success. It is a perfect choice for ages 5 to 9 to foster honesty and mutual support within the family.
The book addresses smoking directly as a habit the mother is trying to break. This is handled in a secular, realistic manner. The resolution is realistic rather than 'happily ever after', acknowledging that breaking habits is a long-term struggle.
An elementary-aged child who feels 'too old' for a habit like thumb-sucking or nail-biting and is starting to feel self-conscious or ashamed, especially one who would benefit from seeing that adults struggle with self-discipline too.
Parents should be prepared for the fact that the book does not end with the characters successfully quitting. It may require a conversation about how progress isn't always a straight line. A parent might reach for this after catching their child in a lie about their habit or after an unsuccessful attempt to use a reward chart that ended in tears.
Younger children (5-6) will focus on the girl's struggle and the funny ways she tries to stop. Older children (7-9) will better appreciate the 'deal' aspect and the vulnerability of the mother showing her own weakness.
Unlike modern books that often provide a 'solution' or a magical fix, this 1979 classic is uniquely honest about how hard it is to change. It positions the parent and child as equals in the struggle, which is rare and powerful.
The story follows a young girl and her mother as they acknowledge their respective 'bad habits', thumb-sucking and smoking. They agree to a 'quitting deal' where they will support each other in stopping. The narrative follows their various attempts, their inevitable slips, and the creative (but often unsuccessful) strategies they employ to stay on track. Ultimately, the book focuses on the process and the relationship rather than a perfect 'cured' ending.
This overview was generated by AI based on the book's content and reviews, and may not capture every nuance.
Your experience helps other parents find the right book.
Sign in to write a review