
Reach for this book when your child is facing any kind of separation, whether it is the loss of a pet, a friend moving away, or a death in the family. Todd Parr uses his signature bold illustrations and gentle humor to validate the confusing mix of emotions that follow a goodbye. The book moves through sadness, anger, and the physical symptoms of grief, such as not wanting to eat or sleep, before landing on a message of hope. Because the book uses a pet fish as a vessel for the story, it remains accessible for toddlers and preschoolers without becoming overwhelming. It is a secular, open-ended resource that focuses on the child's internal experience rather than the specific logistics of loss. It is the perfect choice for parents who want to normalize big feelings and reassure their child that they will always be supported through hard times.
Depicts feelings of deep sadness, loneliness, and grief over a loss.
The book deals with death and loss in a purely secular and metaphorical way. It never uses the word 'death,' instead sticking to 'goodbye' and 'losing someone.' This allows it to apply to various situations like divorce or moving. The resolution is realistic and hopeful, focusing on resilience.
A 3 to 5 year old experiencing their first significant loss, particularly a pet or a change in family structure, who needs a non-threatening way to name their feelings.
This book can be read cold. Parents should be prepared for the child to ask specifically where the other fish went, as Parr leaves this open-ended. A child who has become uncharacteristically quiet, is refusing favorite foods, or is having 'big' outbursts of anger following a change or loss.
Younger children (2-3) will focus on the colors and the basic idea of being sad vs. happy. Older children (5-6) will connect the fish's behaviors (hiding in a castle) to their own coping mechanisms.
Unlike many grief books that are somber and pastel, Parr's neon-bright, thick-lined art style makes the subject matter feel manageable and less scary for very young children.
The story follows a small green fish who has lost its companion. Through simple, declarative sentences and vibrant, primary-colored illustrations, the narrator explores the various stages of grief. The fish goes through periods of not wanting to eat, feeling angry, and trying to remember the happy times. It concludes with the reassurance that life will eventually feel better and that help is always available.
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