
Reach for this book when your middle-schooler is struggling with the unspoken rules of popularity or feels like they need a roadmap to navigate complicated social cliques. It is a perfect choice for a child who feels like an outsider or, conversely, one who tries too hard to control their social environment through 'fixing' others. The story follows Lara Zany, a self-appointed friendship expert who thinks she has social dynamics down to a science. When a new student arrives and challenges her methods, Lara must confront the reality that genuine connection cannot be engineered or forced. It is a lighthearted yet insightful look at identity, the pressure to fit in, and the value of being true to oneself. It helps children realize that friendship is about chemistry and shared values, not social status.
Themes of loneliness and the feeling of being an outcast in middle school.
The book handles social isolation and peer rejection in a direct, realistic manner. There are mentions of minor bullying and the 'hierarchy' of middle school, but the approach is secular and ultimately hopeful.
A 9 to 11-year-old who is obsessed with 'figuring out' school social circles or a child who feels they have to act like a different person to be liked.
Read cold. The book is very accessible. Parents might want to discuss the 'rules' Lara creates to see if their child feels similar pressures at their own school. A parent might choose this after hearing their child say, 'No one likes me,' or witnessing their child try to 'curate' their personality to match a popular group.
Younger readers will enjoy the humor and the 'mission' aspect of the matchmaking. Older readers will resonate more with the internal struggle of maintaining an image versus being a real friend.
Unlike many school stories that focus on the 'mean girl' trope, this book focuses on a protagonist who thinks she is helping, providing a unique look at how even well-intentioned social engineering can be harmful.
Lara Zany is the self-proclaimed 'Friendship Matchmaker' of her middle school, using a strict set of rules to pair up lonely students. Her system is challenged when Emily Wong, a new student with a more intuitive and less clinical approach to friendship, arrives. The two enter a competition to see who can successfully find a best friend for two 'hopeless cases': a nerdy boy named Majit and a shy girl named Jenny. Along the way, Lara realizes her own rigid rules have actually kept her from forming deep, authentic bonds.
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