
Reach for this book when your child is struggling to process the loss of a family member they didn't particularly like or get along with. It is an essential resource for navigating the guilt that often comes with complex grief, especially when a child feels pressured to say only nice things about someone who was difficult in real life. Through the eyes of thirteen year old Jimmy, the story explores the awkwardness of wakes, the weight of family expectations, and the realization that honesty is more powerful than a polished facade. It is a funny, poignant, and deeply realistic look at middle school angst meeting the gravity of death. Parents will appreciate how it validates the messy feelings of sibling and cousin rivalry even in the face of tragedy, making it a perfect choice for kids aged 10 to 14 who value authenticity over sentimentality.
Characters struggle with whether to tell the truth or be 'polite' about a deceased relative.
Explores grief, family tension, and the pressure of public mourning.
The book deals directly with death and the rituals of mourning (wakes and funerals). The approach is secular and highly realistic, focusing on social discomfort and internal emotional processing rather than spiritual questions. The resolution is grounded and hopeful, emphasizing honesty over perfection.
A middle schooler who feels like a 'black sheep' or who is frustrated by the 'saccharine' way adults talk about people who have passed away. It is for the kid who values truth and is currently navigating a family dynamic where they feel unheard.
The book can be read cold. Parents should be aware that the depiction of Patrick is quite negative (bullying, destruction), which is necessary for the book's payoff. A parent might see their child behaving 'disrespectfully' or appearing indifferent at a relative's funeral, not realizing the child is actually paralyzed by the pressure to perform grief they don't feel.
Younger readers will enjoy the slapstick humor of the family gathering and Jimmy's internal snark. Older readers will resonate with the deeper themes of integrity and the challenge of public speaking.
Unlike many grief books that focus on a 'perfect' lost loved one, this book bravely tackles 'uncomplicated' grief for a 'complicated' person.
Thirteen-year-old Jimmy is forced by his mother to deliver the eulogy for his cousin Patrick. The problem is that Patrick was a destructive, difficult presence in Jimmy's life, and Jimmy cannot recall a single positive memory. The book takes place primarily during the wake, following Jimmy as he interacts with eccentric relatives and searches his memory for something meaningful to say.
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