
A parent would reach for this book when their child is beginning to notice a grandparent's personality shifting due to dementia or Alzheimer's. The story follows twelve-year-old John-too as he navigates the confusing and often painful reality of his grandmother moving in and slowly losing her grip on her memories and identity. It is a deeply empathetic look at the frustration, grief, and love that coexist when a family member becomes a stranger. Written for children ages 9 to 12, this realistic novel provides a safe space to process the 'long goodbye' of memory loss. Parents will appreciate how it validates a child's desire to fix the situation while gently teaching that some things must simply be accepted with kindness and patience.
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Sign in to write a reviewThe book deals directly and realistically with Alzheimer's disease and cognitive decline. The approach is secular and grounded in daily life. While there is no 'cure,' the resolution is hopeful in an emotional sense, focusing on the enduring nature of love rather than a medical miracle.
A middle-schooler who has a close bond with an aging relative and is struggling with the 'fairness' of seeing that relative change or become forgetful.
Parents should be prepared to discuss Nannie's specific behaviors, such as forgetting names or getting lost, and how these compare to their own family's experiences with memory loss. A parent might notice their child struggling with Nannie's confusion or moments of anger, as these can be unsettling to witness.
Younger readers (9) focus on the sadness of Nannie not knowing John-too's name. Older readers (12) will pick up on the family tension and the burden placed on the parents.
Unlike many 'grandparent' books that are overly sentimental, Smith uses the specific imagery of the red-shouldered hawk to ground the story in nature, providing a sophisticated metaphor for memory and wildness. """
Twelve-year-old John-too (named after his father) is thrilled when his grandmother, Nannie, moves into their home. However, the excitement quickly turns to concern as Nannie begins to exhibit signs of progressive memory loss and confusion. She forgets names, loses her way in the house, and eventually stops recognizing her own grandson. The story focuses on John-too's internal struggle to reconcile the woman he remembers with the person she is becoming, using their shared love of nature and hawks as a tethering point.
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