
Reach for this book when your family is approaching a major holiday for the first time after the loss of a loved one. It is a gentle, realistic window into how grief can feel heavy during times of celebration, and how honor and memory can be woven into new traditions. The story follows Papa and his daughters, Selma and Becca, as they attempt to make Hanukkah latkes without Mama for the first time. It validates that things will feel different and perhaps a bit messy, but that love and legacy remain. While the context is Jewish, the emotional core of navigating a 'year of firsts' is universal for children aged 4 to 8. It offers a soft landing for parents looking to open a conversation about missing someone during the holidays while still finding a path toward joy.
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Sign in to write a reviewThe book deals directly with the death of a parent. The resolution is realistic and hopeful, suggesting that while the ache of loss remains, the family can still find happiness in their traditions.
A child aged 5 to 7 who has recently lost a parent or grandparent and is feeling anxious or sad about how an upcoming holiday will function without that person's specific role or presence.
Parents should be aware that the book mentions Mama's death on the very first page. The book does not provide details about the cause of death, so parents may want to consider how they will respond if their child asks about it. The moment where the family realizes they don't know Mama's specific 'secret' for the latkes, highlighting the lost knowledge and small daily voids left by a death.
Younger children (4-5) will focus on the sensory details of the cooking and the comfort of the father's presence. Older children (7-8) will more keenly feel the subtext of the daughters' emotional labor as they try to help their father navigate his own grief.
Unlike many books on grief that use metaphors or animals, this uses a specific, tangible task (cooking) to ground the grieving process in reality, making the abstract concept of 'moving on' much more accessible to a child. """
Following the death of their mother, Papa and his two daughters, Selma and Becca, prepare for their first Hanukkah alone. The focal point is the ritual of making latkes, a task Mama always handled. As they grate potatoes and fry the pancakes, they grapple with the physical absence of her expertise and the emotional weight of her loss. They eventually find success by leaning on their shared memories of her process.
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