
Reach for this book when your daughter feels like the odd one out because she is not ready for the boy-crazy phase that has suddenly consumed her friend group. It is an ideal resource for the middle elementary years when social dynamics shift and 'dating' becomes a confusing new currency of cool. The story follows Nina, a girl who loves sports and hanging out with boys as friends but feels pressured by her peers to view them as romantic interests. It beautifully explores the tension between staying true to one's own developmental pace and the fear of being left behind by friends. Parents will appreciate how it validates that it is perfectly okay to just be a kid, while modeling how to set boundaries with friends who are maturing faster.
The book handles peer pressure and social exclusion in a very direct, realistic manner. There are no heavy traumas, but the 'micro-traumas' of being teased for not having a crush are treated with the weight they carry for an 8-10 year old. The resolution is secular and hopeful.
A 9-year-old girl who feels 'behind' her peers because she still likes playing tag or sports rather than talking about makeup and crushes. It is for the child who is feeling lonely even when surrounded by friends.
Read cold. The book is very accessible. Parents might want to discuss the scene where Nina feels she has to lie to fit in. A parent might hear their child say, 'I have to pretend to like [Boy's Name] so my friends won't laugh at me,' or see their child suddenly dropping hobbies they love to look 'more mature.'
Younger readers (8) will see a story about friendship loyalty. Older readers (11-12) will recognize the nuanced pressure of performing gender roles and romantic interest.
Unlike many 'tween' books that focus on the excitement of first crushes, this book is a rare and necessary validation for the girl who isn't there yet.
Nina is a relatable protagonist who finds herself at a social crossroads. Her best friends are starting to obsess over boys, clothes, and 'dating' in the way middle schoolers do. Nina, however, still views boys as teammates and friends. The story tracks her navigation of school social circles, her attempt to fit in with the new 'boy crazy' expectations, and her eventual realization that she shouldn't have to change her interests to maintain her status.
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