
Reach for this book when your teen is navigating a deep betrayal by a best friend or struggling to define the boundaries between platonic and romantic love. This story follows lifelong friends Naomi and Ely, who have a list of people they are both forbidden from kissing to protect their bond. When Ely breaks the rule by kissing Naomi's boyfriend, their world shatters. This is a sophisticated look at the messy reality of growing apart and the hard work of forgiveness. It is ideal for older teens (14 and up) due to its mature themes of identity, sexuality, and the complicated nature of urban teenage life. Parents will appreciate the way it validates that friendship breakups can be just as painful and transformative as romantic ones.
Depictions of kissing, dating, and discussions of sexual orientation.
Occasional references to underage drinking and parties.
Infidelity (betrayal of a partner), parental abandonment/estrangement (Naomi's father's affair and subsequent absence), and intense interpersonal conflict.
A 16-year-old who feels their world is ending because of a friendship breakup. This is for the teen who is realizing that their 'person' might not be their person forever, and who needs to see that life continues after a social catastrophe.
Parents should be aware of the mature language and frank discussions of teenage sexuality. The book can be read cold, but it may spark conversations about the ethics of 'lists' in relationships and how to handle betrayal. A parent might hear their teen say, 'I never want to speak to them again,' or 'They ruined my life,' following a fight with a best friend. It is the moment when a child is mourning a platonic relationship with the intensity usually reserved for romance.
Younger teens (14) will focus on the drama of the 'betrayal' and the social fallout. Older teens (17-18) will likely resonate more with the themes of codependency, the complexity of Naomi's mother's mental state, and the necessity of outgrowing childhood roles.
This book treats a friendship breakup with the same narrative weight and gravity as a divorce or a death, validating the profound impact these shifts have on a teenager's sense of self.
Naomi and Ely are lifelong best friends in a Manhattan apartment building who have created a No Kiss List to protect their bond. The system fails when Ely kisses Naomi's boyfriend, Bruce the Second. The story follows the fallout of this betrayal, the dissolution of their 'institution,' and the difficult process of finding individual identities outside of their codependent friendship.
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