
Reach for this book when your child is grappling with resentment toward a family member or struggling to understand that adults can be flawed and still love them. It is an ideal choice for navigating the space between anger and forgiveness, particularly after a long absence or a broken promise. Twelve-year-old Daphne is spending the summer with her dad, a man she barely knows because of his past struggles with alcoholism. As he teaches her to skateboard, the physical acts of falling and getting back up become a metaphor for their relationship. This middle grade novel handles sensitive themes like addiction and estrangement with a grounded, realistic lens. It is a powerful tool for modeling how to set boundaries while still leaving the door open for healing.
Frequent discussions of alcoholism and the process of recovery/sobriety.
The book addresses parental alcoholism and estrangement directly but through a secular, contemporary lens. The portrayal of recovery is realistic rather than idealized, emphasizing that trust is earned over time. The resolution is hopeful but grounded, avoiding a perfect fairy-tale ending in favor of a believable path forward.
A 10 to 12-year-old who feels protective of their own emotions, perhaps due to a parent's inconsistency, and who finds comfort in physical activities or sports as a way to process internal turmoil.
Parents should be aware of scenes where the father discusses his past drinking and his attendance at recovery meetings. It is a 'read cold' book for most, but be ready to discuss what 'making amends' means. A parent might choose this after hearing their child express a sentiment like, 'I don't care if they show up or not,' or seeing a child struggle to accept a sincere apology from someone who has hurt them.
Younger readers will focus on the excitement of the skateboarding culture and the tension of 'will he show up?'. Older readers will better grasp the nuance of the father's fallibility and the courage required for Daphne to be vulnerable.
Unlike many 'reunion' stories, this book uses the gritty, technical world of skateboarding as a perfect physical manifestation of emotional resilience: you have to learn how to fall properly before you can learn how to fly.
Daphne travels to Oakland to spend three weeks with her father, Peter, who has been largely absent from her life due to his struggle with alcoholism. While she is guarded and skeptical of his intentions, they begin to connect through a shared interest in skateboarding. As Daphne learns the mechanics of the sport, she also learns about her father's past, his recovery process, and the reality that apologies do not always fix the past instantly.
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