
A parent would reach for this book when their child is processing the heavy, confusing layers of grief or beginning to ask questions about their own identity in a world that feels restrictive. It is a profound choice for middle schoolers who feel like they are hiding parts of themselves from their families or who are struggling with the 'rules' of how to grow up correctly. Through the eyes of twelve-year-old King, the story explores the magical thinking often used to cope with loss, the complexity of sibling loyalty, and the bravery required to be honest about who you are. This National Book Award winner navigates themes of racism, homophobia, and domestic abuse with a sensitive, literary touch. It serves as a gentle but honest bridge for parents to discuss the intersection of personal identity and family expectations, ultimately offering a message of self-acceptance and the healing power of truth.
Boys hiding in the bayou face the elements and the risk of being caught.
Deep exploration of grief, loneliness, and the fear of rejection by family.
Depictions of child abuse (Sandy's father) and physical altercations.
Death of a sibling, physical child abuse (off-page but described), domestic violence, and systemic racism including police interactions.
A thoughtful 11 or 12-year-old who feels pressured to act tough or hide their emotions, or who is navigating the jagged edges of loss while trying to figure out their own place in a community that feels rigid.
Parents should be aware of the descriptions of Sandy's father's violence, which is a primary driver of the plot. The book can be read cold by mature middle-grade readers, but preparing for a conversation about how grief can manifest in different ways, including anger or withdrawal, is helpful. A child expresses that they feel they have to hide their true self to keep the peace, or a child is struggling with 'magical thinking' after the death of a loved one.
Younger readers (10-11) will focus on the mystery of the missing friend and the 'magic' of the dragonflies. Older readers (13-14) will more deeply internalize the social critiques regarding race, toxic masculinity, and the characters' journeys of self-acceptance.
This book is unique in how it weaves together the visceral experience of Black southern life with a lyrical, almost dreamlike exploration of grief and identity, particularly as it relates to the characters' experiences with race and sexuality. It refuses to simplify the intersections of race and sexuality, making it a standout for its emotional complexity.
Twelve-year-old King is paralyzed by the sudden death of his older brother, Khalid. King believes Khalid has reincarnated as a dragonfly, a belief that provides a thin shield against his father's stoic grief and his mother's quiet suffering. The narrative shifts when King's former best friend, Sandy, goes missing to escape his physically abusive father. King hides Sandy in his backyard, and their secret sanctuary becomes a space where they both confront the weight of homophobic expectations from their families and navigate their identities, and the reality of King's loss.
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