
Reach for this book when your middle-schooler is struggling to connect with an aging relative or feeling disconnected from their own cultural heritage. It is a powerful tool for families navigating the complexities of dementia, helping children see the person behind the diagnosis. Through the lens of twelve-year-old Carol, the story explores the tension between a modern, polished life and the messy, magical history of one's ancestors. Set in the New Mexico desert, the narrative follows Carol as she helps her parents move her grandfather, Serge, into an assisted living facility. While her parents see Serge's stories as symptoms of decline, Carol begins to see them as a bridge to her roots. The book beautifully handles themes of grief, identity, and the power of oral tradition, making it an ideal choice for 10 to 14 year olds who are starting to define themselves apart from their peer groups.
Depicts the progressive mental decline of a grandparent and the emotional toll on the family.
The book deals directly with dementia and aging. The approach is deeply empathetic but realistic regarding the frustration and sadness family members feel. The book also explores themes of cultural erasure, specifically the father's attempts to distance the family from their Mexican heritage, which causes Carol distress. The resolution is bittersweet and hopeful, prioritizing emotional truth over a medical cure.
A reflective 12-year-old who feels like an outsider in their own family or who is witnessing a grandparent's health decline and needs a way to process the 'disappearing' of that person's personality.
Parents should be aware that there are moments of intense frustration from the adults in the book toward the grandfather, which may require discussion about how stress affects caregivers. The book can be read cold but benefits from post-reading chats about family stories. A parent might notice their child becoming impatient or frightened by a relative's memory loss, or perhaps the child is expressing a lack of interest in their family history.
Younger readers (10-11) will focus on the magical elements and the 'mystery' of the bees. Older readers (13-14) will better grasp the nuance of the father's internalized racism and the tragedy of cognitive decline.
Unlike many books about dementia that focus solely on the medical or caregiving aspect, this title uses magical realism to elevate the grandfather's dignity, suggesting that his 'lost' memories are actually a sacred heritage. """
Carolina (Carol) spends a transformative summer in the New Mexico desert. Her family is preparing her grandfather, Serge, for a transition into a memory care facility due to his progressing dementia. While her parents view Serge's talk of a magical oasis and ancient bees as delusions, Carol finds herself caught between her desire to fit in with her suburban friends and a growing fascination with her grandfather's stories. As she helps clean out his sheep ranch, she discovers that the line between reality and myth is thinner than she thought.
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