
Reach for this book when your older child is navigating the complicated, often messy transition of welcoming a new sibling. It is an ideal choice for the child who might be acting out, feeling forgotten, or showing a mix of affection and aggression toward the new baby. Through a conversation between a father and daughter, the story recounts the first weeks of a baby's life, capturing the reality that babies can be boring, loud, and demanding. Robie Harris skillfully validates the full spectrum of a sibling's experience, from the initial disappointment that the baby can't play to the eventual pride of being a big sister. This book is developmentally perfect for ages 3 to 7, offering a safe space to discuss 'not-so-nice' feelings without judgment. It helps parents reinforce the idea that their love for the firstborn hasn't changed, even while the family dynamic has.
The book deals with sibling jealousy and resentment in a very direct, secular, and realistic manner. It doesn't sugarcoat the older child's negative feelings, making the eventual resolution feel earned and hopeful rather than forced.
A 4-year-old who has recently become a 'big sibling' and is struggling with the loss of being the sole center of attention. It is for the child who needs to hear that it is okay to think the baby is annoying.
Read this cold. The conversational tone between the father and daughter is very natural. Parents should be prepared to pause when the daughter in the book expresses dislike for the baby to ask their own child if they ever feel that way. A child saying 'I don't like him,' 'Send him back,' or the child exhibiting regressive behavior (wanting to be treated like a baby) or minor aggression like 'patting' the baby too hard.
Younger children (3-4) will relate to the physical comedy of the baby's diapers and crying. Older children (5-7) will appreciate the 'looking back' perspective and the sophisticated recognition of their own evolving maturity.
Unlike many 'new baby' books that are overly precious, Harris captures the authentic, blunt voice of a child. The framing device of the father retelling the story to the child adds a layer of security and being 'seen' by the parent.
A father and his young daughter sit together looking at a photo album. The father narrates the story of the daughter's first reactions to her new baby brother. The narrative covers the hospital visit, the baby's constant crying and sleeping, the daughter's initial rejection of the infant, and her gradual realization that she has a special role as the 'big' kid who can make the baby smile.
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