
Reach for this book when your teenager is facing a major life transition, such as moving from a protected environment into the social complexities of public school, or when they are beginning to quietly question their own identity. Ham's journey from being a homeschooled minister's son to an eighth grader navigating the hallways of public school provides a safe space for teens to process the anxiety of fitting in while staying true to their upbringing. The story centers on the delicate balance between family loyalty, religious expectations, and the personal discovery of one's orientation. Parents will appreciate the book's nuanced approach to faith and family dynamics. While it touches on the confusion of a first crush, it maintains a realistic and grounded tone suitable for middle and high schoolers. It is an excellent choice for fostering empathy and opening a dialogue about the pressures of peer groups and the courage it takes to be oneself in a new environment.
Depicts a first crush and questioning of sexual orientation.
Themes of loneliness and the fear of not being accepted by family.
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A thirteen or fourteen year old boy who feels like an outsider due to a protected or religious upbringing. This is for the child who is quietly observing the world and trying to figure out how their personal truths fit into the expectations of their family and community.
This book can be read cold. Parents may want to be prepared to discuss the intersection of faith and identity, as the book treats Ham's religious life with respect rather than as a source of villainy. A child expressing deep anxiety about going to school, or a teen who has started to withdraw and seems burdened by a secret they are afraid to share with their religious or traditional family.
A thirteen year old will likely focus on the immediate social anxiety of the public school transition and the "fish out of water" comedy and drama. An older teen will better appreciate the nuanced internal conflict regarding Ham's adoption and the intellectual labor of questioning his identity within a ministerial household.
Unlike many stories that pit LGBTQ+ identity against religion in a purely antagonistic way, this book explores the tension with a gentle, realistic lens. It highlights the specific experience of an adopted child in a clergy family, adding layers of loyalty and gratitude to the coming out process.
Ham, an eighth grader who has been homeschooled his entire life, enters the public school system for the first time. As the adopted son of a minister, he faces the dual challenge of navigating complex social hierarchies and reconciling his growing awareness of his sexual identity with his religious background and family expectations.
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