
A parent would reach for this book when their teenager is navigating the intersection of profound grief and the exhilarating, often terrifying, discovery of their first queer love. This story follows seventeen-year-old Coley as she moves to rural Oregon following the death of her mother, feeling completely untethered until she meets the magnetic but guarded Sonya. It is a raw and honest exploration of identity, the weight of secrets, and the courage required to be vulnerable when you have already lost so much. While the book deals with heavy themes of loss and social isolation, it is ultimately a story of self-acceptance and hope. It is best suited for older teens (14 and up) due to its mature handling of emotional trauma and romantic tension. Parents might choose this book to provide their child with a mirror for their own LGBTQ+ identity or as a way to open a dialogue about how grief can complicate new relationships.
Includes kissing, intense physical longing, and teenage romantic tension.
Deals with the aftermath of a mother's suicide and intense feelings of abandonment.
Mentions of teenage parties and minor alcohol use.
The book deals directly with the aftermath of a parent's suicide and the book depicts homophobic bullying and social rejection as a character struggles with coming out. The approach is realistic and secular. While the romance is central, the resolution is bittersweet and grounded in reality rather than a fairytale ending: it emphasizes personal growth over a perfect relationship.
A 16-year-old girl who feels like an outsider in her community and is looking for a story that validates the intensity of queer longing and the messy reality of grieving while growing up.
Parents should be aware of the backstory involving the mother's suicide and the depiction of homophobic bullying. It is best to read this alongside the teen or be available to discuss the emotional impact of societal prejudice and fear of rejection on Sonya's choices and Coley's feelings. A parent might see their child withdrawing after a move or a loss, or perhaps notice their teen struggling with the 'hot and cold' nature of a close friendship that seems to be something more.
Younger teens (14) will focus on the 'will-they-won't-they' romance and the school drama. Older teens (17-18) will likely resonate more with the themes of parental abandonment and the existential search for a place to belong.
Unlike many YA queer romances that focus on a 'perfect' coming out, this book captures the specific, painful nuance of loving someone who is struggling with internal and external pressures to remain closeted, set against a backdrop of deep, personal tragedy. """
After her mother's suicide, Coley is sent to live with her estranged father in rural Oregon. She meets Sonya, a girl who seems to have everything figured out but is deeply closeted and struggling with her own family expectations. Their friendship turns into a complex, high-stakes romance as they navigate small-town prejudices and their own internal fears.
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