
A parent would reach for this book when their teenager is experiencing the hollow ache of a first heartbreak or the exhaustion of an unrequited crush. It is specifically designed for the teen who has lost their sense of self while trying to fit into someone else's world. The story follows seventeen-year-old Sadie as she embarks on a self-imposed twelve-step program to stop pining for her best friend, Garrett, who treats her like an afterthought. Through a summer job and new friendships, Sadie learns that her value is not defined by a boy's attention. The book explores themes of independence, the toxicity of one-sided friendships, and the joy of rediscovering forgotten passions. While it deals with romantic longing, it is a healthy, secular, and empowering look at reclaiming one's identity. It is highly appropriate for high schoolers navigating the social complexities of dating and self-worth.
Focuses on unrequited crushes, some kissing, and navigating romantic feelings.
Explores the emotional pain of being ignored and feeling inadequate.
The book deals with emotional manipulation and the 'friend zone' in a very direct, realistic manner. It is secular in its approach. The resolution is hopeful and grounded in reality: Sadie doesn't just find a new boy; she finds herself.
A fifteen or sixteen-year-old who is currently 'pining' for someone who doesn't see them. This is for the girl who feels like a supporting character in her own life and needs a roadmap to becoming the lead.
The book can be read cold. Parents might want to discuss the 'twelve-step' metaphor to ensure the teen understands it is a humorous framework for habit-breaking, not a clinical commentary on addiction. A parent might see their child constantly checking their phone for a text that never comes, or hear their child making excuses for a friend who treats them poorly.
Younger teens will focus on the humor and the 'will-they-won't-they' romance. Older teens will resonate more deeply with the themes of intellectual pretension and the struggle to maintain a personal identity within a peer group.
Unlike many YA romances that prioritize the 'happily ever after' with a love interest, this book prioritizes the 'happily ever after' with one's self. It deconstructs the 'manic pixie dream girl' trope from the girl's perspective.
Sadie has spent years as the perfect sidekick to Garrett, a pretentious aspiring writer who takes her devotion for granted. When Garrett leaves for a summer literary camp, Sadie realizes she has no identity of her own. She creates a twelve-step recovery program to 'get over' him, involving a makeover, a job at a local cafe, and a strict 'no contact' rule. Along the way, she discovers her own talents and realizes that the boy she idolized might not be worth the pedestal she put him on.
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