
Reach for this book when your teenager is wrestling with questions about their gender identity or feeling like they do not fit into the traditional boxes of male and female. It is a vital resource for parents whose children are expressing a sense of being different or experiencing the heavy weight of social and internal expectations regarding masculinity and femininity. The story follows Brendan, a high school wrestler who has a girlfriend but secretly dreams of being a girl. Written as a novel in verse, it explores the raw intersection of self-discovery, shame, and the search for authentic connection. While the emotional themes are intense, including loneliness and fear, the book ultimately offers a path toward self-acceptance. It is most appropriate for older teens who are ready for a realistic, secular, and deeply honest look at the transgender experience and the complexities of the gender spectrum.
Includes depictions of teenage sexual pressure and sexual exploration.
Depicts deep gender dysphoria, self-loathing, and thoughts of self-harm.
There are depictions of self-harm, intense bullying, and a scene involving a physical assault. The book also touches on suicidal ideation and the emotional weight of family rejection.
An older teenager who feels trapped by gender expectations and is looking for a visceral, honest representation of the questioning process. This is for the reader who needs to know they are not alone and that there is a path forward.
Parents should be aware of the scenes involving self-harm and the assault. It is helpful to read this alongside the teen to discuss the importance of finding safe spaces and mentors like Angel for support and guidance as they explore their identity. Parents might notice their teen exhibiting signs of distress related to body image, gender identity, or social pressures, similar to the struggles Brendan faces in the book.
Younger teens (13-14) may focus on the social dynamics and relationships, while older teens (16-18) may connect more deeply with Brendan's internal struggles and exploration of identity.
This book stands out for its use of the novel in verse format, which allows for a raw, stream-of-consciousness intimacy that prose often misses. It is also unique for including the perspective of a partner (Vanessa), showing how gender identity impacts the entire social ecosystem of a teen. ```
Brendan is a high school wrestler grappling with gender dysphoria. The story, told in verse from three perspectives (Brendan, his girlfriend Vanessa, and Angel, a transgender mentor), follows his journey from deep-seated shame and fear to the initial steps of transitioning and self-acceptance.
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