
Reach for this book when your teenager is struggling to bridge the gap between your family traditions and their personal identity. It is a vital resource for high schoolers who feel they are living a double life to keep the peace at home. The story follows Frank Li, a Korean American teen who enters a fake-dating pact to hide his real relationship from his parents. Beyond the romance, the book explores the nuanced weight of parental expectations, the complexity of the immigrant experience, and the realization that parents are flawed humans too. It is an honest, humorous, and sometimes heartbreaking look at the messy process of becoming your own person while still wanting to belong to your family. Due to some mature language and themes, it is best suited for readers aged 14 and up.
Teenage romance, kissing, and references to sexual pressure/expectations.
Deals with terminal illness and the death of a parent.
References to teenage drinking at parties.
The book depicts instances of microaggressions and prejudice experienced by Frank from outside his family, as well as colorism and pressure to conform to Korean beauty standards *within* his family. Be prepared to discuss the different forms racism can take. It also handles a parent's terminal illness in a realistic, secular manner. The resolution is bittersweet and mature, favoring growth over easy happy endings.
A high school junior or senior who feels like a chameleon, constantly shifting their personality to fit different cultural or social groups, and who is ready to question the 'perfect' version of their parents.
Parents should be aware of frequent profanity and scenes of teenage parties. Review the chapters dealing with Frank's father's health, and be prepared to discuss the novel's exploration of colorism and the pressure to conform to Korean beauty standards within the Korean community. A parent might see their teen pulling away, being secretive about their social life, or pushing back against long-held family cultural values.
Younger teens will focus on the 'fake dating' trope and the romance. Older teens and young adults will connect more with the themes of collegiate transition and the evolving, often painful relationship between adult children and their parents.
Unlike many YA romances that stop at 'boy meets girl,' this book explores the complexities of being Korean-American, including the challenges of balancing family expectations with personal desires. ```
Frank Li is a Limbo, a term he uses for being caught between his Korean heritage and his Southern California lifestyle. His parents insist he only date Korean girls, but Frank falls for Brit, who is white. To see Brit without getting caught, Frank enters a fake-dating contract with Joy Song, a family friend in the same situation. As they navigate their fake dates and real lives, Frank must confront his parents' racism, his sister's estrangement, and the reality that love is rarely as simple as a checklist.
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