
Reach for this book when your child is struggling with the exhausting performance of trying to fit in, or when they are navigating the quiet, lingering weight of grief. It is an essential read for the middle schooler who feels they must reinvent themselves to be liked, only to find that the mask they've created is becoming too heavy to wear. Abigail is heading to summer camp determined to be brave, cool, and different from the girl she is at home. However, between the pressure of bunkmate politics and the private ache of missing her late father, her plan for a fresh start becomes a messy, realistic journey of self-discovery. This story is deeply grounded in the emotional reality of eleven-year-olds, offering a mirror for children who feel like they are failing at being normal. It is a compassionate tool for discussing peer pressure, the complexity of grief, and the courage it takes to simply be yourself.
Characters engage in risky 'dares,' including jumping from heights into water.
Frequent reflections on the death of the protagonist's father and the resulting loneliness.
The book deals directly with the death of a parent (Abby's father). The approach is secular and realistic, focusing on the psychological impact of loss rather than the event itself. The resolution is realistic and hopeful, acknowledging that while the pain doesn't go away, one can learn to carry it while moving forward.
A 10 to 12-year-old girl who is about to experience a major social transition, like starting middle school or going to sleepaway camp, and who feels the need to 'fix' her personality to fit in.
Parents should be aware of a scene involving a dangerous dare (jumping into a quarry) and moments of mean-girl social dynamics. It can be read cold, but discussing the 'dares' helps frame the peer pressure. A parent might see their child being uncharacteristically quiet, acting out to impress 'cool' friends, or expressing anxiety about being 'boring' or 'different.'
Younger readers (9-10) will focus on the camp adventures and the desire to be brave. Older readers (11-13) will resonate more deeply with the internal conflict of identity and the nuances of social exclusion.
Unlike many 'dead parent' books that focus on the immediate aftermath, Vail captures the long-tail effects of grief: how it becomes an identity you desperately want to escape.
Eleven-year-old Abigail (Abby) heads to Camp Nashaquitsa with a secret mission: to be 'Daring Abigail.' Back home, she is defined by her father's death and her own insecurities. At camp, she tries to shed this identity, joining in on risky dares and navigating the shifting social hierarchies of her bunk. As the summer progresses, the tension between who she is and who she wants to be reaches a breaking point, forcing her to confront her grief and her need for true acceptance.
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