
Reach for this book when your child is struggling with the disillusionment that comes from seeing a parent's flaws for the first time. It is an essential read for middle schoolers navigating the complexities of blended families or those feeling protective of a sibling who is hurting. Paula Fox masterfully captures the shift from childhood idolization to the bittersweet reality of adult imperfection. Through the eyes of twelve-year-old Carrie, we witness her older half-brother Ben's quest to reconnect with his estranged, unreliable father. It is a quiet, deeply felt story that validates the confusion of loving someone who consistently lets you down. It provides a safe space to discuss forgiveness and the realization that parents are human beings with their own struggles. The book is best suited for ages 10 to 14, offering comfort to those who feel they must be the 'stable' ones in a chaotic family dynamic.
Depicts parental neglect, disappointment, and the burden of an unreliable parent.
The father's character strongly implies a struggle with alcoholism.
The book deals with parental neglect and alcoholism in a realistic, secular manner. Donald is not a villain, but he is clearly broken. The resolution is realistic rather than 'happily ever after,' as Ben chooses to stay and help his father, acknowledging the burden of that choice.
A thoughtful 11-year-old who is beginning to notice that the adults in their life don't have all the answers, or a child in a blended family who feels a fierce, protective loyalty toward a sibling.
Parents should be prepared to discuss the father's living conditions and his implied drinking problem. It is helpful to read this alongside the child to unpack the heavy theme of Ben deciding to stay with his struggling father. A parent might reach for this after seeing their child withdraw or express anger toward a non-custodial parent, or if a child seems to be 'parentifying' themselves to take care of a family member's emotional needs.
Younger readers (10) may focus on the mystery of the blowfish and Carrie's loyalty. Older readers (13-14) will better grasp the tragedy of Donald's character and the weight of Ben's decision to forgo his own plans to help his father.
Unlike many 'lost parent' stories that end in rejection or magical reconciliation, this book explores the middle ground of 'pity-as-love' and the agency of a young person choosing to help a parent who cannot help themselves.
Twelve-year-old Carrie observes her nineteen-year-old half-brother, Ben, who has spent years writing the cryptic phrase 'Blowfish live in the sea' on every available surface. When Ben receives an invitation to visit his biological father, Donald, in Boston, Carrie accompanies him. They find Donald living in a shambles of a boarding house, struggling with what appears to be alcoholism and a failure to launch. Rather than being repelled, Ben finds a way to connect with his father by helping him clean and organize his life, eventually deciding to stay and support him.
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