
Reach for this book when your child is transitioning to a new school and feels caught between the desire to fit in with the popular crowd and the instinct to be kind to someone who is different. It addresses the quiet, painful social pressure that middle schoolers face when their peers dictate who is worthy of friendship and who is an outcast. Jill has just moved from California to Massachusetts and finds herself at a crossroads: she can join the cool girls, or she can maintain her genuine bond with Dede, a neighbor with Down Syndrome. This story explores empathy, the weight of peer judgment, and the courage required to be a true friend. It is a realistic, grounded look at the social hierarchy of the 1980s that remains deeply relevant today for any child navigating the 'price' of popularity.
Jill struggles with feelings of shame and the fear of social isolation.
The approach is secular and realistic for its 1987 publication date. The book uses the term "mentally retarded," which is now considered offensive. Be prepared to discuss why that language is no longer acceptable and the importance of using respectful language when talking about people with disabilities. The emotional core is respectful and humanizing. The resolution is hopeful and focuses on Jill's internal growth.
An 11-year-old girl who is sensitive and observant, perhaps feeling the first sharp stings of middle school social cliques, and who needs to see that choosing kindness over 'coolness' is a brave and rewarding path.
A parent might see their child making excuses not to invite a certain friend over, or notice their child acting 'different' or more superficial when around a specific group of school peers.
Younger readers (9-10) will focus on the 'mean girl' dynamics and the fear of being left out. Older readers (11-12) will better grasp the nuanced internal conflict of shame and the complexity of Jill's divided loyalties.
Unlike many 'moving' stories that focus only on the move, this focuses on the moral cost of assimilation. It highlights that the hardest part of moving isn't making friends, but keeping your integrity while doing so.
Jill moves to a new town and is quickly befriended by the popular, somewhat exclusionary girl in her class. At the same time, she develops a deep, sincere friendship with Dede, a neighbor with Down Syndrome. The central conflict arises as Jill tries to keep these two worlds separate, eventually facing a moment of truth where she must decide if she will hide her friendship with Dede to maintain her social status or stand up for her friend and risk being ostracized.
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